Unbothered in 7 Days | Pre-test

About 10 minutes. Not graded. 12 questions, plus 3 quick confidence questions.

This is not a test you pass or fail. It is fine not to know these answers. Many people will not, because you have not taken the course yet. Your answers show your starting point, so at the end you can see how far you came.

Why we ask: it shows what you already know and which ideas are new to you. When you finish the course, you will see your before and after for each skill, so you can see where you grew and what to review.

How sure do you feel?

Rate each line from 1 (not at all sure) to 5 (very sure). There is no right answer.

I can spot what drains me, including comparison and approval seeking, and pick what to change.

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1 = Not at all sure5 = Very sure

I can pause when someone sets me off and set a calm limit in one or two sentences.

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1 = Not at all sure5 = Very sure

I have a plan to keep one new peace habit going for 21 days.

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1 = Not at all sure5 = Very sure

Questions

1. Dana's day: a walk at lunch, a 40 minute call with a coworker who complains, a nap, and two hours of scrolling at night. Which list shows only withdrawals?

A. The complaint call and the late scrolling B. The walk and the nap C. The nap and the complaint call

2. Toni's drains: her mother's illness, a long work shift she cannot change, and checking email in bed every night. Which drain should she work on first?

A. Her long shift B. Checking email in bed C. Her mother's illness

3. Jess feels drained by a neighbor who stops her every evening to gossip for half an hour. What is the best small fix to try this week?

A. Keep a short exit line ready and use it after five minutes B. Wait until she has more energy to deal with it C. Stay the full half hour so she does not seem rude

4. At a family dinner, your uncle mocks your job in front of everyone. Your jaw tightens. Using the pause, what comes first?

A. Leave the table at once with no word B. Fire back with a joke about him C. Notice the tight jaw and the heat in your body

5. Your boss writes, "We need to talk tomorrow." Your stomach drops and you start writing a long defense. Which step did you skip?

A. None, writing it out is the pause B. Notice and Name, because you jumped to acting C. Choose, because you already chose to defend

6. A friend keeps showing up at your home without calling. Which boundary is clear and short?

A. "It's fine, but maybe next time you could think about calling first?" B. "You are so rude to just drop by. Everyone knows you call first." C. "Please text before you come over. If you don't, I may not open the door."

7. Your coworker keeps eating lunch at your desk while you work. Which line sets a limit you control?

A. "You need to respect my space more and stop eating at my desk." B. "You have to find somewhere else to eat. I can't work like this." C. "I need my desk clear while I work. I'll eat with you in the break room at noon."

8. Every morning Kim reads a celebrity account and then feels behind in life. What is the best input change to try?

A. Mute the account for 30 days and see how she feels B. Read it faster so it takes less time C. Post more so she looks just as good

9. Bri feels jealous when a friend posts about paying off debt. Which response turns comparison into a goal based on her values?

A. "I'll pay off all my debt this month so I can catch up to her." B. "I value freedom too. I'll pay $50 extra on one card this month." C. "She's just lucky. Some people get all the breaks in life."

10. Tasha says yes to leading a work project mainly so her manager will like her. She has no time for it. What would the approval check ask?

A. "Would I still do this if no one praised me for it?" B. "How can I do even more so my manager sees my effort?" C. "Will saying yes make people at work think I'm a team player?"

11. You are building your one page Peace Plan. Which plan is most likely to work?

A. Ten new habits starting Monday, one for each problem area B. One drain to fix, one pause cue, one boundary line, and one 21 day habit C. A goal to be calm every day, with no slip ups allowed

12. You start a 21 day walking habit. On Day 6 a storm keeps you inside. What should you do?

A. Quit, since the streak is broken B. Start over at Day 1 and add a second habit C. Do a short version inside, then pick up on Day 7

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Next up

Go to Day 1: Know What Drains You.

This self-check is not a grade and does not affect your access.