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Glossary: BMU 202 Healing Out Loud
- Adverse childhood experience
- A potentially traumatic event or home condition before age 18.
- DEAR MAN
- A skill from dialectical behavior therapy for asking clearly.
- Disappearing
- Shrinking your needs, voice, or feelings to keep the peace.
- Expressive writing
- Writing your deepest thoughts and feelings about something hard, for yourself.
- False progress
- Sounding healed on the outside while living the same loop.
- Generational pattern
- A way of handling life that shows up in more than one generation.
- Guilt
- "I did something bad." A feeling about an action.
- If then plan
- "If this happens, then I will do that."
- Lapse
- A slip back into an old habit.
- Micro honesty
- A small true statement, like "I'm tired today."
- Mud Toolkit
- Your go to list of grounding tools, people, and resources.
- Numbing
- Using a habit, like scrolling or working late, to avoid a feeling.
- Okay to say list
- Plain sentences you are allowed to say out loud.
- Pattern breaker
- The person who chooses a new way so the old pattern stops with them.
- Positive childhood experiences
- Things like feeling safe and supported by family and other adults.
- Reset
- A short way to get back on track without punishing yourself.
- Safety plan
- A short written list of warning signs, coping steps, people, and crisis lines.
- Sanity system
- A few small routines that keep you steady.
- Self compassion
- Treating yourself with the kindness you would give a friend.
- Settling
- Quietly accepting less than you want, then calling it peace.
- Shame
- "I am bad." A feeling about your whole self.
- Unsent letter
- A letter you write to someone but do not send.
- Validation
- Words that say your feelings make sense.
- Weight
- An old hurt or message you still carry into new moments.
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- In danger right now: call 911.